What is St. Dwynwen’s Day?

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Question: What is St. Dwynwen’s Day and when is St. Dwynwen’s Day?
St Dwynwen’s Day occurs every January 25. It is the equivalent of Valentine’s Day for the Welsh. However, St. Dwynwen’s Day has been growing in popularity recently and has grown beyond the Welsh community.

St. Dwynwen’s Day came about roughly from the following story:

Dwynwen was the lovely daughter of a 5th century king, Brychan Brycheneiniog. She fell in love with a prince named Maelon, but had already been pledged to another. Maelon, in a fit of rage over not being able to marry Dwynwen, had relations with her against her will then left her. Dwynwen was so distraught and depressed over the series of events that she prayed that God would erase her momory of Maelon. As she drifted to sleep, an angel visited her and gave her a potion to forget Maelon forever. But it also caused Maelon to be frozen. The angel also granted her three wishes. Those wishes were:

1) She wished to never marry anyone.

2) She wished to become the patron saint of lovers where she could console lovers suffering in pain.

3) She wished for Maelon to be unfrozen.

All three wishes were granted and Dwynwen spent her days serving God and consoling lovers as the Welsh Saint of Love. Now, every January 25, people in Wales get together to celebrate love and St. Dwynwen. The day is referred to as Dydd Santes Dwynwen (translated – Day of Saint Dwynwen).

For more information on this, read Nicole Roberge’s column on Saint Dwynwen’s Day.

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How Much Does it Cost to Join eHarmony?

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Question: How much does it cost to join eHarmony?
Here are eHarmony’s prices as of December 2008:

1 month: $59.95

3 months: $119.85

6 months: $179.70

12 months: $239.40

Sometimes you can find some discounts by visiting Online Dating Magazine’s eHarmony Promotions page.


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Becoming a Better Listener in a Relationship

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Question: Do you have any tips on becoming a better listener in a relationship?
There is an adage that rings very true here – practice makes perfect. Think of becoming a better listener as a challenge. Your goal is to master that challenge. Here are three excellent starting points:

1. Ask followup questions to what the person is saying. If you have a rule of asking a followup question then you’ll have to listen more closely in order to know what you’re going to ask.

2. Stay away from a lot of alcohol and sugary drinks (i.e. sodas) that can inhibit your ability to listen.

3. Look at the person when they are talking. If you look a person in the face (you can even focus on something like the eyes or nose) then your attention is on them. When your attention is on the person, then you tend to hear what they are saying.

Here are a couple of good articles to read on the subject:

> The Art of Listening

> Active Listening

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Why Don’t Girls Respond on Chemistry.com?

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Question: Why don’t girls respond on Chemistry.com when I email them?
There are two fundamental flaws of most online dating services that contribute to this problem. Those flaws are:

1. If you are a member and you send an email to someone, they need to be a member too in order to read the email and respond.

2. Many online dating services don’t clean their databases often, so someone who may not have used the service in years is still listed as available.

Because you don’t know, in most cases, who is a member ro not and whether a person is still active, you could be sending some emails to never-never land and that could account for a good portion of unanswered emails.

Online Dating Magazine research shows that, in general it takes a man 20 emails to various ladies in order to get one response. This 20 to 1 ratio is an average of all dating services, not just Chemistry.com which you mentioned in your question.

Online Dating Magazine also states, however, that it is possible to improve your ratio by following several tips:

1) Personalize your first communication. Carefully read the other person’s profile and when you send your email ask some questions based on their areas of interest.

2) Don’t talk about yourself in your first communication. Keep it about the other person.

3) If services allow you to see when a person last logged on then check that before sending an email. If it has been months or years since the person last logged on then your email isn’t going to change that.  Sending emails to people no longer on services is like putting your email straight into a shredder.

Other studies show that posting a good picture improves your response rate. This doesn’t mean that you scan a photo of a model from a magazine and post it as your own. That type of deceipt will come back to bite you. It means that you post a recent and decent photo of yourself.  Always be honest with your photo and in your profile because when a person meets you, they’ll know immediately if you were lying (or fibbing) and that will affect the quality of your date.

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Is a Post It Note an Acceptable Way to Break Up?

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Question: Is a Post It Note an Acceptable Way of Breaking Up?
Absolutely not. We’re a bit curious as to if you’re asking this because you’re going to break up with someone or because someone broke up with you via a post-it note. Either way, the answer remains the same… breaking up via a post-it note is cowardly and does nothing to improve the character of the person doing it.

Breaking up is a difficult process. Many people want to avoid the “conflict” or “drama” that goes with it. Thus many times the person breaking up might look for the least direct way to do it (text message, email, etc.). Avoiding direct contact does a couple of things:

1) Teaches you to take the “easy road out”.

2) Lessens the value you place on others.

The right way to break up is in person or, if necessary , on the phone. It’s important to break up this way because you need to allow the person you’re breaking up with to get some type of closure. A post-it note, text message, or email doesn’t allow for closure or the ability to “vent”.  Also, breaking up this way allows the person doing the break up to grow because of the value they place on the other person, even when saying goodbye.

Here is a good breakup article you should read:

> Dealing with a Break Up

Remember, how you treat another person in a break up defines the type of person you are.

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What are Good Manners for a First Date?

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Question: What are good manners for a first date?

1. Shower, brush your teeth, and look/smell good.

2. Arrive early to your destination so that you are not late.

3. If you’re a man, open the door for the lady when the opportunity arises.

4. If you’re a man, offer to pay for the date. If the lady prefers to go dutch, don’t argue.

5. Don’t cross your arms – it signals boredom.

6. Look your date in the eyes when talking and listening.

7. Study your date’s profile and emails (if you met online) in advance so that you can cover topics of interest to him/her during your conversation.

8. Don’t drink alcohol on the first date.

9. Compliment your date, but no more than 2-3 times the entire date.

10. Turn off your cell phone for the duration of the date.

11. Ladies – if you enjoyed the date, let the man know it before you part ways.

12. Men – if you enjoyed the date, ask the lady on a second date. Don’t play the game of “waiting 2-3 days” before calling).

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What is the Number of Dating Services Online?

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Question: What is the number of dating services online?
Online Dating Magazine estimates that there are more than 2,500 online dating services on the Internet with 2-3 new services opening every single day. Out of all these service, Online Dating Magazine estimates that more than 90% will fail or never turn a profit.

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In Internet Dating, How Many People Do I Have to Write to Get a Response

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Question: When it comes to Internet and online dating, how many people do I have to write on an online dating service before I get a response?
This is a great question. Online Dating Magazine researched this and concluded that the ratio of emails sent by men to responses by women is, on average, 20 to 1. This means that for every 20 emails you send, you will get one response. The ratio improves, however, when you take greater care in personalizing your email message. So never send a generic email and always read the profile of the person you’re writing carefully. Use things you learned in reading the profile as conversation starters.

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Should I Mention My Kids in My Online Dating Profile?

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Question: In my online dating profile should I mention or talk about my kids?
When you fill out the questionnaire on an online dating site, one of the questions asked is “do you have kids?” You should answer this with a Yes (if you do). Outside of that, you should not mention your kids at all and definitely do not post any pictures of them. Read Online Dating Magazine’s Warning to Single Parents for more information as to why.

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What Happens After eHarmony’s Free Communication Weekend?

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Question: What happens after eHarmony’s free communication weekend ends?
Once eHarmony’s free communication weekend ends, you can no longer communicate with your matches unless you sign up for an paid membership (or until the next free communication weekend). If you want to keep communicating with your matches (and see photos, which free communication weekend doesn’t allow) then you should sign up for an account – however look to see if there are any eharmony promotion codes and discounts first!

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