Dating in the Dark Episode #1 Recap

(Online Dating News Blog) Dating in the Dark is a very interesting singles social experiment that examines what happens when couples meet and build relationships in the dark then, after four days, have their looks revealed to the other person.

Dating in the Dark Review and Recap:
Episode One: “Pilot”

The Singles:

Stephen (SAT Tutor) – Age 31
Seth (Audio/Video Designer) – Age 31
Allister (British chap who is a DJ) = 29

Christina (Marketing Manager) – Age 28
Melanie (Assistant to Color & Design Consultant) – Age 31
Leni (Nanny) – Age 27

The men enter the dark room first and find their way to a table where there are three chairs on each side. They sit down. Then the females enter and make their way to the table in the dark.  They feel for the chairs then pull them out at which point Leni states, “Guys, you could have pulled out the chairs for us.” Everyone laughs.

The first session is fairly short and just a way for everyone to get “first impressions” of each other in a group setting. Next each person is allowed to select one person they would like to get to know better in the dark room. No one selects Allister, but he does get to still go on a date with the woman of his choice. The dates are brief “get to know you” sessions.

After the “get to know you” one-on-one sessions, the singles are told that before the experiment began, each was matched with one of the others by dating experts and scientific compatibility tests (they each filled out a 50 page “test” before filming began. The results are revealed as follows:

Seth & Christina
Allister & Melanie
Stephen & Leni

The participants are told that every day they would have to spend time with their match in the dark room but would also have free time to date others if desired.

During the dark room time, each match gets to know each other on a deeper level, spilling secrets, and in many cases kissing. Yet they still haven’t seen what the other looks like. Near the end a sketch artist is brought in and each person is asked to describe what they think their date looks like.

In their first “we’ve been matched up date”, Seth and Christina kiss each other. Christina qualifies it by saying, “sometimes a kiss is a good way to tell if there’s even more chemistry there or not.” But after the date, she says, “I have no idea what I just kissed in there. I hope to God when all is revealed that I don’t have this guy that looks like Shrek.”  Ironically, it seems that Christina missed the whole point of the movie Shrek.

Allister and Melanie get to know each other on a deeper communication level with Allister sharing an emotional part of his past, thus endearing Melanie more to him. They also share a “tickle moment”. At the end of the date, Melanie says to the camera, “I have a very large soft spot for him.”

(Melanie and Allister in the Dark Room)

On Stephen and Leni’s first date, Stephen is distracted by Leni’s “pheromones” and wants to kiss her, but she says he’ll have to wait (she kisses him on the second date). They share time together and develop a chemistry.

At free time, the singles are allowed to go on a dark room date with anyone they want. All select the people they were matched with.

After the last date, in which all couples have indicated they’ve formed a strong connection, a sketch artist is brought in to sketch a photo of what each person thinks his her date looks like. Leni’s sketch of what she thinks Stephen looks like is a muscular model that would be on the front page of GQ. Pictures are exchanged so that the other partner can see what their date thinks he/she looks like.

The big part of the show is the “reveal” because each of these couples have developed a “relationship” with each other.  For the reveal the couples are taken into the dark room and positioned facing each other, but at a distance. They are not allowed to speak to each other. One is revealed via a “spotlight” (while the other is still in darkness) then the other. They then leave the room without commenting. Before the reveal, Leni and Christina do a toast saying, “here’s to hoping they look good.”

Here’s how each couple reacted in the reveal:

Leni was disappointed in Stephen, saying later to the other girls that he “looks like the kind of guy your mother would say, ‘what a lovely boy. He’s a lovely boy.o”
Stephen thought Leni was “cute”.

Seth was blown away by Christina saying he was “the luckiest guy in the world”.
Christina was disappointed in Seth’s look.

When Allister was revealed to Melanie, he blew her a kiss, making her laugh. She thought he was super cute and “dashing”.
Allister was disappointed with Melanie’s “hippie” look.

In the end:

> Leni and Stephen decided to continue their relationship.

> Christina rejected Seth and didn’t want to see him anymore despite the strong connection in the dark room.

> Allister and Melanie decided to continue their relationship.

What We Learned:

> Women can be just as shallow as men when it comes to looks versus personality and chemistry.

> Even if we don’t see a person we are communicating with, we form a visual of the person.

> You shouldn’t overestimate the looks of your date or dwell on it so much that it consumes you.

Action Items:

> If you are doing online dating, include a photo with your profile. Make sure it is recent. Get the “looks” factor out of the way immediately so that it doesn’t weigh on things down the road.

> Focus on dating people who share photos online. Get to know people you may not have a strong attraction to physically, but still find pleasant enough to see how well you connect.

Final Thoughts:
I’ve known girls who have gone out with a “hot” guy and later said that he was “the most attractive guy until he opened his mouth.” The opposite is also true. Physical attraction can grow as you get to know a person better. Likewise a very attractive person can take on a negative attraction through their attitude and ego.

What are your thoughts on the first episode? Post them in the Comments section below.

Dating in the Dark Premise

datinginthedarklogo(Online Dating News Blog) The premise for Dating in the Dark is as follows:

Each week three single men and three single women, all looking for love, move into separate wings of the same house and remain completely sequestered from the opposite sex. They interact with the opposite sex in a complete dark room that is so dark that those participating can’t even see their hand in front of their face. However, viewers see everything thanks to some nice high-tech infrared cameras.

After four days of wooing, kissing and snuggling in complete darkness, the participants will select one of their dates to be revealed in the light. And after they see each other for the first time, they’ll have to make the ultimate decision to stay with the person they fell for in the dark, or to move on and turn their back on the other person.

Looks are completely removed from the equation in Dating in the Dark as people get to know each other for personality and compatibility. Yet this social experiment also answers the question as to how shallow people still are these days when it comes to looks. The premise is similar to that of two people communicating via an online dating service and neither one posting a photo. No matter how strong the connection, the real question becomes what happens when that photo (or first date) arrives?

The six episode series airs Mondays on ABC (From July 20, 2009 through August 24, 2009).

Dating in the Dark – What’s Your Opinion?

(Online Dating News Blog) We want to know what you think of the new ABC TV series Dating in the Dark.  Is it a good social experiment or does it just confirm that looks is all that matters to most people? What are your overall thoughts of the show and the psychology behind it? Use the Comments section below to share your thoughts. Here’s one opinion, via video, shared by a guy named Mike on his Vlog:

What do you think?

Dating in the Dark FAQ

(Online Dating News Blog) Here is an FAQ we put together for the TV show “Dating in the Dark“:

Question: What exactly is Dating in the Dark?

Answer: Dating in the Dark is a weekly hour long TV series on ABC that examines what happens when single people meet other single people in a completely dark environment where they can’t see each others faces or bodies. One must totally rely on a sense of touch, sound, communication, and smell to see if there is an attraction. The TV series brings together three single guys and three single girls every week and starts with group dating before pairing off into solo couples. ABC describes it in a much simpler fashion:

“Dating in the Dark is a sexy social experiment asking the age-old question, ‘Is Love Blind?’ Looks will be taken out of the equation when men and women get to know each other and connect in total darkness.”

Question: When Does it Air?

Answer: Mondays at 10 pm on ABC.

Question: How many episodes are there in season 1?

Answer: Season 1 consists of six episodes.

Question: How long do couples have to get to know each other before their looks are revealed?

Answer: Four days.

Question: How many people are in each episode?

Answer: There are three single men and three single women.

Question: How are the couples paired together?

Answer: Each episode starts with a group date where the six singles get to know each other in the dark. After they are told who experts and compatibility tests say they are best matched with. Taking both into account, they then decide who they want to see more of in a one on one setting.

Question: How are the looks revealed?

Answer: The couple is brought into the dark room and placed facing each other at a distance. They are not allowed to speak with each other during the reveal. The light then shines on one person (see video below). It then goes off and shines on the other person. There is a complicated exception to this rule. A person can choose to see any member of the opposite sex, but only one.  Of course, so far they have all chosen the person they’ve gotten to know better.

Question: What are the ratings like?

Answer: 6.3 million viewers for the pilot episode which is good. Click here for our article on the premiere. For the second episode, 6.4 million tuned in and the show was the highest rated among 18-49 year olds for the 10pm time slot. Following The Bachelorette finale didn’t hurt. But in week #3 the show’s ratings took a nosedive, losing nearly half of it’s audience.

Question: Where can I find updates on the couples?

Answer: You can’t. We do know that some of the contestants read our blog and would welcome their updates. Unfortunately there is no single outlet for updates. ABC says on the show (every episode)  to go to its Website for updates on the couples from Dating in the Dark, yet they don’t provide any updates. It’s one of the poorest designed TV show Websites ever.

Question: Is Dating in the Dark an offshoot of any other show?

Answer: Yes. It is an imported offshoot of the Dutch TV show Blind Love.

Question: Who is the host of Dating in the Dark?

Answer: The host is Rossi Morreale

Question: I have a question that wasn’t answered here. How do I ask it?

Answer: Use the Comments section below or email it (with Dating in the Dark in the Subject header) to

Dating in the Dark Premieres

(Online Dating News Blog) The intriguing Dating in the Dark TV series premiered on ABC Monday with 6.3 million viewers, making it the second best show in its time slot and the first in its time slot for the age group 18-49 year olds.

Dating in the Dark is a reality series where three men and three women are brought into a house, but not allowed to see each other. They communicate with each other in a dark room where infra red cameras catch all the action.   Eventually each selects who they want to get to know better and they spend quality time with that person in the dark room. The key is to see if they can develop relationships without seeing each other. They do.  The big question is if the relationship will continue once they see what the other person looks like. It gives a whole new meaning to the term “blind date”.

Here’s a trailer for the series:

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