Confessions of a Matchmaker is a matchmaking and advice show airing weekly on A&E. It’s a show that offers dating tips and dating advice to singles through the eyes of matchmaker Patti Novak. Below are dating tips that can be learned from Episode 6, Lynn and Matthew.
Episode 6 (Lynn & Matthew) – Dating Tips:
- Don’t lie about your age.
- Don’t come on too strong on your first date. It will scare your date away.
- Don’t treat your date like he/she is at a job interview.
- Be genuinely interested in learning about your date.
- On a first date, don’t tell someone you live with your mom and dad!
- Don’t limit yourself by creating a list of standards for dating (i.e. person must have black hair, blue eyes, and be at least 6′ tall).
I was really disappointed with Patti in this episode. The reason why is because Matthew is a minister and Patti tried matching him with someone who wasn’t very religious. In his interview, he clearly told Patti that he was a minister and his beliefs take precedence over everything else.
In matchmaking there are some boundaries that need to be followed. If a person doesn’t believe in God and is a die-hard atheist, you don’t try to match them with someone who puts God first in their life and vice-versa. To make the minister go out on a date with a woman who is not very religious probably brought some amount of embarrassment to this minister from his congregation. Obviously, if a person is a minister then his/her foundation is built around religion and God. Patti ignored this fact.
If a person is a vegetarian and makes it clear that he/she does not want to be matched with someone who eats meat, then you don’t match that person up with a meat eater! This is why online dating services provide various ways of you to determine matches – so that your core beliefs aren’t compromised in the search for love.
What was interesting about this episode is that what you think you want may not be what’s right for you. In this episode, Lynn wanted a man with blue eyes, at least 6’2, and 23 years old (even though she was 30+). The date didn’t go well. When Patti matched her up with a guy who had brown eyes, was 5’8 and 42 years old, the two hit it off. The point is that if you’re not having success then change things up by eliminated your “must be” list and trying out new adventures.