Buffalo Matchmaker Patti Novak – Episode 11 Dating Tips

Episode 11 of Confessions of a Matchmaker follows matchmaker Patti Novak as she helps Mike (a man with a busy lifestyle) and Sue (who doesn’t know how to flirt). Here are some dating tips that can be gained from this episode:

Episode 11 (Mike and Sue) – Dating Tips:

– Never put yourself down on a date. It will cause your date to look down on you or lose interest quick. If you can’t say nothing nice about yourself, then don’t say anything at all!

– If you want to fall in love, you have to make time for it. Love requires commitment.

– Keep inappropriate remarks to yourself.

– Don’t be too aggressive (or “in your face”) on a first date. It turns people off.

– Don’t be sarcastic on a date and don’t say rude things to your date.

– Learn to flirt.

– Keep a clean living space. It is representative of you.

– If you have self esteem issues, work on those first before going on dates.

Joe’s Comments
This was an interesting episode because we saw some new things. Patti Novak gave Sue lessons on flirting and sent her on a date to try them out. However, instead of practicing what she had learned, she proceeded to tell her date, “I’m a very bad flirt” then told her the things Novak was teaching her. Bad idea! It’s appropriate to practice things you are learning, but probably not so good to tell your date about it. That kind of ruins the whole purpose.

I really didn’t get Mike at first. He has an ultra busy lifestyle, promises Novak he’ll change that to find love, then doesn’t call the people she matches him with because he is “too busy”?! If you want someone to share your life with, you must put an effort into finding that person and in fostering your relationship.

Favorite line from this episode:
Patti Novak finally gets Mike to set up a date in his busy schedule. The camera cuts to the minature golf course where Mike is waiting for his date to arrive. Novak says, “The date was off to an unbelievable start. To begin with, Mike showed up!”

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  1. Kris Duttlinger says:

    Love This Show!! and only wish I were closer to Buffalo as one who could definitely use Patti’s help. She is the epitome of awesomeness 🙂

  2. I must mention two caveats to the rules that Patti mentioned:

    1. “Don’t be sarcastic” – sarcasm, if done properly, tastefully and without excessive negativity is one of the most POWERFUL ways to attract the other person. Sarcasm is one of the highest levels of humor and both men and women very much appreciate sense of humor and sharp wit in the counter part.

    2. “Don’t put yourself down” – self deprecating, if done in joking manner, can be very attractive. Laughing at oneself in an endeering manner is a great sign of confidence. After all, who can openly make fun of his own traits / qualities unless he / she is completely secure in having them.

  3. I had my full experience in blind dating and honestly, it can work simlpy fantastic at times. And as Joe Tracey wisely mentioned, it takes time and you better take it seriously, rather than do what others do. give some info and then “ok, let’s meet”. It just isn’t like that, try to take it more like in r/l, you’ll see a good similarity.

  4. I would have to agree with not putting yourself down. I once dated a man that did nothing but talk down about himself, it was a very unattractive quality. Plus, I constantly felt like it was my job to argue with him about it, it was very draining.

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