Breakup Makeover

(OnDating) A couple of days ago we posted a video providing breaking up advice. Today it’s all about the Breakup Makeover. That’s right, instead of spending days and weeks moping over a breakup, you can instead embrace what has happened and channel your energy into giving yourself a “breakup makeover” that will make you a better person and serve for better relationships in the future.

OnDating’s Andrea Syrtash is back and in the video below she is providing some valuable advice on how to move beyond the breakup and turn it into an event that can prepare you for your future in dating.

This episode also contains an interview with Kristina de la Cal, author of the book Breaking Up Without Breaking Down. Are you ready to celebrate your breakup?

Breaking Up Advice

(OnDating) This episode of OnDating talks about breaking up and includes an interview with Kristina de la Cal, author of the book Breaking Up Without Breaking Down.  As with all the OnDating videos, it starts with a question on the street that people answer. In this episode, the question is, “Do you think most breakups are a blessing in disguise.” We got a laugh from the first girl to answer who said she doesn’t like breakups which is why she doesn’t date people.

After you’ve watched the video, here are a couple of other great articles on breaking up:

> Dealing with a Break Up and Relationship Closure
> Breaking Up and Resentment
> Breaking Up and Getting Back Together
> How Do I Break Up for Good?
> Dealing with Break Up Pain

Is a Post It Note an Acceptable Way to Break Up?

(Online Dating News Blog – The Answer Box)

Question: Is a Post It Note an Acceptable Way of Breaking Up?
Absolutely not. We’re a bit curious as to if you’re asking this because you’re going to break up with someone or because someone broke up with you via a post-it note. Either way, the answer remains the same… breaking up via a post-it note is cowardly and does nothing to improve the character of the person doing it.

Breaking up is a difficult process. Many people want to avoid the “conflict” or “drama” that goes with it. Thus many times the person breaking up might look for the least direct way to do it (text message, email, etc.). Avoiding direct contact does a couple of things:

1) Teaches you to take the “easy road out”.

2) Lessens the value you place on others.

The right way to break up is in person or, if necessary , on the phone. It’s important to break up this way because you need to allow the person you’re breaking up with to get some type of closure. A post-it note, text message, or email doesn’t allow for closure or the ability to “vent”.  Also, breaking up this way allows the person doing the break up to grow because of the value they place on the other person, even when saying goodbye.

Here is a good breakup article you should read:

> Dealing with a Break Up

Remember, how you treat another person in a break up defines the type of person you are.

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